#4 How to Become a Magician of Self-Leadership - Step 1.
“A young child is a leader to an elderly person once his purpose has a faithful, sincere and trustworthy influence on people. Leadership is not restricted to position and age; it is self-made and influencial. Everyone has this self-leadership quality.”― Israelmore Ayivor
Challenge Your “Elephant Thinking”.
When they begin to train an elephant for the circus, they chain the baby elephant’s leg to a pole in the ground. The baby elephant wants to get away. He pulls and tugs, but he can’t escape - the chain is too big and the pole is too deep in the ground, so elephant stops trying. As he grows up, he just assumes he can’t get away. Today he’s a six-ton elephant. He could sneeze and pull out the chain - but he doesn’t even try. Elephant just has a memory as a child that he pulled like crazy, but nothing happened so he just quit trying.
I’ve been an elephant all my life, but I didn’t realize it when I was younger. The first lesson that really hit me was back in 2010. I was a salesman in Toyota dealership and one day a farmer came in. His boots were so dirty that you could actually find his pilgrimage on the floor. There were muddy footprints everywhere. For me, he looked like a homeless person so I assumed guys like him will never buy anyway and he’s not worth my time. What a poor judgment. This gentleman was interested in buying a Toyota Land Cruiser. Nobody really paid attention to him and he left. A couple of weeks later we got a really bad review from him. This gentleman bought himself a Land Cruiser from one of our competitors.
That day I lost a client and a sale but it taught me a lesson for life. The lesson I’m still following every single day. Just let go of the preconceived ideas, and live your life in abundance. To this day my biggest influences are the people who don't look like they have something to offer. The real “Big Shots” are the most humble people I know because they have nothing to prove to everyone anymore other than themselves. Being able to read people is a gift, but the greater gift is to know your own mind. It’s in your best interest to accept the responsibility for getting what you need to succeed in whatever you do. If you are still keen on playing the presumption game, assume this - every single person in the world has something to teach you.
“We live our lives supposing things are as they appear to be when that is almost never the case.”
Don’t judge a book, before you have even seen it. Just because the last book you read might have sucked, it doesn’t mean that the next one or all the books are like that. 80-90% of you have a belief or thoughts that you are basing on your past which limits your future and your potential. You lose football games before you even start playing it because your competition is better on the paper. You mess up at work and you are afraid to say anything to your leader just assuming he's/she’s going to be pissed and might fire you etc. Quit playing a pity game and feeling sorry for yourself. It’s a game that you will lose every single time. Feeling pity leads you nowhere, only circling in the “endless loop”. Now when you have that knowledge in advance, how about not starting to play this game it at all? You have to turn the problem upside down so that you’re on the top. Just take the responsibility and you’ll see how your whole mind starts focusing on how to deal with the situation and to move forward. It’s simple, but it’s not easy. You need to consciously keep yourself in the solution path.
The Story of Abraham Lincoln.
Lincoln first ran for public office in the Illinois State Legislature in 1832 but was defeated. He persevered and ran again in 1834, this time serving four consecutive terms in the State Legislature before returning to full-time law practice. In 1846, he re-entered politics and was elected to the U.S. House of Representatives but lost his re-election bid. Lincoln ran for the U.S. Senate in 1854 but lost that race and a subsequent race in 1855 for a different Senate seat. However, he gained national recognition, and in 1860, he was nominated for President of the United States.
Without jumping over the the wall or obstacle of assuming constraints Lincoln would have never made it as a president. You have to understand that as self-leaders we are always smarter, stronger and more experienced today than we were yesterday. Learn from the experience, study and try again tomorrow. Success is defined by getting up more times than you fall down. Don't build the wall between you and something amazing. You're more powerful than you think you are.